I'm the other half. I work in a university library, but I only have a bachelor's. I don't have any immediate plans to go to grad school, but my spouse is at the end of a PhD program. We're not long for this city, and 99.9% likely to move to another state or country due to my spouse's field. I've found myself in limbo. Support him (he's been working towards this for so long) but put myself on hold? It's hard to commit to things (school, non-profit boards, leadership positions at work) when you don't know if you'll be gone in the next 6 months.
Is there anybody else here who is the non-academic half? Who feels like they're betraying themselves a little by putting themselves on hold for someone else?